Several months ago my husband came home from work and said, “You know I love you, right.” They were dreaded words. As it turned out my husband had a puppy in the car. We had discussed and decided now (having 2 kids in diapers) not being the right time to get another pet. A long explanation of how the dog came to be in his truck passes and I asked, “Did you think to call and ask what I thought about this, “ to which my husband sheepishly answered, “Yes, but I knew you’d say No.” The short version is I felt betrayed and though my husband was sorry and said he would take full responsibility for the dog it took me a good while to forgive him. As you may have figured out by now my husband is a firefighter and he is not home to “take full responsibility” for this puppy. (that needed to be potty trained and everything. She now is.) I will come back to the relevance of this story in a minute.
My husband receives loves best with acts of service. Because of this I am constantly doing things for my husband. So upon first reading today’s challenge I thought, “what can I do that I don’t already”. Then it came to me. I’m going to go outside and pick up the dog poop. This is something I refuse to do when my husband is home because I have to do it when he is working if the kids want to be able to play outside. Benny is still in the “what’s that? Let me put it in my mouth and see” phase of his life. It will be strictly out of love for my husband so he doesn’t have to do it and I can’t say in all honestly my attitude will be what it should while I do it. Truthfully I was excited to think of something I wanted to do so little that my husband would appreciate so much.
May you ladies get to something you hate today to show your husbands you love them!
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I'm not wanting to do anything today. struggling with selfishness. Maybe I'm blind to it, but I'm feeling like this is so one sided! How selfish is that! I know that is the point, to give love without expectation! so pray for me. I love him but I"m feeling selfish. I go through this so often it seems so it brings me down and then of course I'm left not doing anything. blah. I'm having a lot of anxiety the last few days also. I am not sure if it's medical or not. Seems to flare up when it's "that time of the month". thing is I never really know when that time of the month is bcuz i'm not a regular gal! i have an endocrinologist appt. today to discuss why my thyroid is overproducing hormones. the doc says it can definitely be the cause of my chest pain/anxiety,and irregular cycle. This is all new for me and I hate medicine/drugs. so please pray that God would regulate my body, for a period( lol) and for me to overcome my own flesh and give love today. thanks ladies!
Oh - I definitely did something I hate today...I've been shoveling clay and dragging wheelbarrow fulls all around the house and yard, filling up holes. Of course, the kids are supposed to be doing it, but it is way too hard for them. I have made them be out there with me though, since they are doing it to earn a toy.
This is hard for me today since Ryan is gone. I did clean (like I usually do on Monday's)and did a little extra. I really don't know what to do that he would appreciate today so I have made the resolve that I will next week when he is home (please hold me to this!) make coffee for him for when he gets up at 5. Yes I have an automatic coffee maker but it also means for me to remember to do it the night before! This is one thing that he does in the morning usually and I have nice hot coffee when I get up. I will try to do this for a few days (I don't want to spoil him do I?!?)
@Jennifer...I do know how you are feeling...but keep reading. Even if you can't do every dare every day for whatever reason...just reading it will open your heart. You may not be able to do it now...but I will pray that in the future you will remember what you have read and God will open you to be able to do it then.
Thank you Michelle! Thank you all who prayed. at the end of today it's a much different thing. went to doc, gotta do MORE bloodwork and swallow some iodine! lol Anyhow, i trust God to work, so remind me of that if I freak out! lol I ended up getting money to the bank as he had asked, and picked up his fav coffee creamers. I also made his fav spaghetti and took his tips to cook it and he absolutely loved it! My heart changed as I did these things for him. I know it's the right thing to be selfless. but when I'm in my flesh, getting to that starting point is like ripping off your eyebrows(dunno where that came from) but you know what i mean. The lord is so gracious with me. looking forward to tomorrow.
Isn't it funny how in your face your selfishness becomes when faced with a challenge like this. Our dog totally had diarrhea yesterday and my cleaned up the poop before me. (Probably because I kept put it off so long.)
I ended up making a dinner he really liked and cleaning up by myself while he talked on the phone to his brother. As this does happen relatively often anyway, I wasn't convinced it counted so I got up this morning when he did and got his coffee going for him. That was a little more unusual for me.
I have been really struggling with selfishness on and off too. Satan would have us think things like "this is so one sided". We just need to be obedient to the Lord and serve our husbands with loving hearts. I'll confess I am more loving in action than in heart the last few days, but that is the real love isn't it? This challenge is so difficult because it goes against our natural instinct and sin nature that begs us to put ourselves first. Its so funny how we can’t even manage one little thing a day for our spouses without feeling like we are getting shorted somehow.
It is important we really be praying for each other. I love seeing all the encouragement. We are only a quarter of the way through, but we can do it!!!!!
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